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My child can’t be a stone pelter !!!

August 31, 2019 | Uzma Jan

I’m still not sure if I should raise this subject but a mother in me is simply unable to hold her back. For so many years we have encountered stone pelting incidents in valley but witnessing the kids of age group 10-12 years resorting to stone pelting is really disheartening. We were more than shocked to see stones in hands of kids rather than books or bat. Does a child at such a tender age even understand the meaning of word “protest”? Either there’s an issue of generation gap that these kids are beyond their age and actually smart and mature enough to understand the repercussions of their actions or we, as parents, are missing somewhere in giving them right direction. Whatever maybe the case but one thing is for sure that it is leading towards total destruction and irreparable psychological damage of a whole generation. Right now it might seem like an extra curricular activity of some sort or some part time engagement even to the parents but the far reaching impact on the thought process of a child is beyond our imagination. We still remember the time when even on uttering a bad word on a momentarily reaction, our parents used to reprimand us in a way that we never even dared to repeat it. But today it seems either the parents are encouraging their children to adopt this course or they are clueless about the wrongdoings of their children. If former is the scenario then we can just pray for the well being of such children as those parents are no less than peddlers and child molesters. But if later is the case then still there’s a chance, there’s a hope. I don’t think there’s a need to drag government or administration to provide the solution as the problem is within us.

 As a mother who left no stone unturned to give birth to a new life, I can’t even imagine my child beyond study and play. Undoubtedly his choices in life matters most and he is free to express his willingness or unwillingness, his likes or dislikes, but the subject in consideration should pertain to his age or his mental level. If one fine day suddenly he would come up with an idea to revolt against the American President then his such choices and demands need proper attention and redressal from our side as it would be an indication that his tender mind is trying to peregrinate in some unwarranted territory. And if we as parents would ignore it or would fail to help him in clearing his mindset then we would definitely fail in our duties towards our children. Such neglect from our side would lead our children towards a state of despair and self destruction and by the time we would realise our folly, it would be too late to act or react. And I firmly believe that there’s not even a single parent on earth who would ever desire to ruin the life of the child whom they have given the life.

 

Even the schools hold a very important role here. It is quiet common amongst the children of this age group to visualise their teachers as role models in life. For them the words of teacher are that of God which can’t be wrong and can’t be questioned. If any misdeed of a child, which is not common for a child of his age, comes in the notice of teachers then they should also act responsibly and counsel the child. Instead of applying scolding and punishment technique, approach of open communication can resolve many issues far effectively and easily.

 

It is to be understood that such children need help, their mind is playing with them and they need proper guidance and direction. And as a parent or guardian we need to apprehend that pelting stones by a child is not a normal phenomenon rather it is a grave situation that needs immediate attention. If we really hope for growth and development of our country then first of all we need to focus on the growth and development of our future generation. These children are the torch bearers of our future and thus their approach towards life should be optimistic and progressive. It is very important to be hopeful in life else the purpose of life would get defeated and thus we all hope that by sincere, concerned and targeted efforts, we would be able to save our children from the negative emotions.

 

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My child can’t be a stone pelter !!!

August 31, 2019 | Uzma Jan

I’m still not sure if I should raise this subject but a mother in me is simply unable to hold her back. For so many years we have encountered stone pelting incidents in valley but witnessing the kids of age group 10-12 years resorting to stone pelting is really disheartening. We were more than shocked to see stones in hands of kids rather than books or bat. Does a child at such a tender age even understand the meaning of word “protest”? Either there’s an issue of generation gap that these kids are beyond their age and actually smart and mature enough to understand the repercussions of their actions or we, as parents, are missing somewhere in giving them right direction. Whatever maybe the case but one thing is for sure that it is leading towards total destruction and irreparable psychological damage of a whole generation. Right now it might seem like an extra curricular activity of some sort or some part time engagement even to the parents but the far reaching impact on the thought process of a child is beyond our imagination. We still remember the time when even on uttering a bad word on a momentarily reaction, our parents used to reprimand us in a way that we never even dared to repeat it. But today it seems either the parents are encouraging their children to adopt this course or they are clueless about the wrongdoings of their children. If former is the scenario then we can just pray for the well being of such children as those parents are no less than peddlers and child molesters. But if later is the case then still there’s a chance, there’s a hope. I don’t think there’s a need to drag government or administration to provide the solution as the problem is within us.

 As a mother who left no stone unturned to give birth to a new life, I can’t even imagine my child beyond study and play. Undoubtedly his choices in life matters most and he is free to express his willingness or unwillingness, his likes or dislikes, but the subject in consideration should pertain to his age or his mental level. If one fine day suddenly he would come up with an idea to revolt against the American President then his such choices and demands need proper attention and redressal from our side as it would be an indication that his tender mind is trying to peregrinate in some unwarranted territory. And if we as parents would ignore it or would fail to help him in clearing his mindset then we would definitely fail in our duties towards our children. Such neglect from our side would lead our children towards a state of despair and self destruction and by the time we would realise our folly, it would be too late to act or react. And I firmly believe that there’s not even a single parent on earth who would ever desire to ruin the life of the child whom they have given the life.

 

Even the schools hold a very important role here. It is quiet common amongst the children of this age group to visualise their teachers as role models in life. For them the words of teacher are that of God which can’t be wrong and can’t be questioned. If any misdeed of a child, which is not common for a child of his age, comes in the notice of teachers then they should also act responsibly and counsel the child. Instead of applying scolding and punishment technique, approach of open communication can resolve many issues far effectively and easily.

 

It is to be understood that such children need help, their mind is playing with them and they need proper guidance and direction. And as a parent or guardian we need to apprehend that pelting stones by a child is not a normal phenomenon rather it is a grave situation that needs immediate attention. If we really hope for growth and development of our country then first of all we need to focus on the growth and development of our future generation. These children are the torch bearers of our future and thus their approach towards life should be optimistic and progressive. It is very important to be hopeful in life else the purpose of life would get defeated and thus we all hope that by sincere, concerned and targeted efforts, we would be able to save our children from the negative emotions.

 


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Published from: Gulshanabad Chraresharief Budgam
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