In a valley where chinars whisper stories of timeless love, where snowy peaks kiss the sky and autumn leaves rustle with memories, lies Kashmir—“Paradise on Earth.” Its beauty is unmatched, adorned with vast, serene lakes and a culture as rich as its landscape.

Once, in the heart of this paradise, joint families thrived. Elders were the pillars of wisdom, cherished and cared for with deep love and respect. Their golden years were filled with warmth, laughter, and the playful echoes of grandchildren. But today, many of these elders spend their twilight years behind unfamiliar walls—far from family, surrounded not by affection, but by solitude.
The rise of old age homes in Kashmir is a growing reality. With increasing migration to other cities, states, and countries—driven by unemployment, the pursuit of better opportunities, or the desire to escape conflict—families are becoming scattered. As a result, many elderly parents are sent to old age homes, which promise safety, security, and basic care. While these facilities help reduce isolation, they cannot replace the deep emotional bonds of family.
The impact on society is significant. The traditional joint family system is slowly fading, and with it, the unconditional love, care, and mutual respect that once defined Kashmiri homes. Elders, who once held positions of honour and authority, now often find themselves sidelined.
In Kashmiri culture and religion—particularly in Islam—caring for elders is not just a tradition, but a moral and spiritual obligation. It is said that paradise lies at the feet of mothers, and honouring one’s parents is a duty second to none. These teachings remind us of the immense value our elders hold.
In the past, old age homes were rare in Kashmir. Strong family bonds ensured that elders lived with dignity and affection within their own homes. But now, these homes are increasingly found in places like Srinagar, Bandipora, and Kupwara, operated by both government and non-governmental organizations.
Why is the younger generation migrating? There are several reasons. The high unemployment rate in Kashmir pushes many to seek jobs elsewhere. Others leave in pursuit of education or to escape the impacts of conflict and environmental challenges. This migration contributes to the breakdown of joint families and weakens the emotional fabric that once held generations together.
Conflict also plays a damaging role—disturbing family harmony, creating emotional distance, and affecting the mental health of both elders and children. The resulting disconnection fosters feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression within families.
While old age homes may offer excellent facilities, they cannot fill the emotional void. The memories elders carry—the voices of their children, the embrace of grandchildren, the rhythm of shared routines—are irreplaceable. No institution can replicate that love.
Religious scholars remind us that despite modernization, we must not forget our values. It is a sacred responsibility to care for our elders, just as they cared for us in our infancy. They taught us to walk, to speak, to live. Now, it is our turn to walk beside them with the same devotion.
Even if the tree no longer bears fruit, it still provides shade. Likewise, our parents may grow old, but their presence continues to shelter us. Old age homes can offer care, but not the love a child gives to a parent. That love must come from us.
Let us not send our parents away in their time of need. Let us keep them close, cherish their wisdom, and repay their sacrifices with compassion. Old age homes may offer comfort, but they cannot replace the love of a family.
Let us ensure that their footsteps don’t fade into silence. Let us walk beside them—hand in hand—with love, dignity, and gratitude.

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