Mostly we define domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behaviour in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person.Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race,age,sexual orientation, religion,or gender.Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Domestic violence takes place in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.
Presently domestic Violence is recognised as a grave problem in the whole world.Families affected by domestic violence touch all service systems and live in every residential area. Children in families in which such type of violence occurs have remained largely as ‘silent victims.As per the?Domestic Violence Roundtable organisation?Studies show that 3-4 million children between the ages of 3-17 are at risk of exposure to domestic violence each year. U.S. government statistics say that 95% of domestic violence cases involve women victims of male partners.The children of these women often witness the domestic violence.Effect of domestic violence on children result from witnessing domestic violence in a house where one of their parents are abusing the other which plays a terrific role in their well-being and development growth.Violent domestic incidents affect the children straight off as well as indirectly. Many women are subject to domestic violence while they are pregnant and the stress of this violence cause miscarriage, birth of a disabled child, etc. This stress of violence lead to other consequences, e.g., failure to obtain adequate nutrition, rest and medical care which indirectly affects the babies in their uterus.
Infants are often at once involved in domestic violence incidents. TThey are exquistly sensitive to their environment which immediately affects their behavioural, emotional, societal and moral developments.
Nobody can deny this fact that Childhood is regarded as a period of extra protection and children’s development is expected to unfold within a safe environment.When the environment is infected by violence and fear, all the normal tasks of growing up are likely to be adversely affected.These ‘silent victims’ who are exposed to domestic violence are coping not only with the aftermath of frightening domestic incidents, but also a sudden change of dwelling, of schooling and friendships, adjustment to refugee living and breaking the family secrets.
Violent domestic incidents affects the adolescents also. Violence against mothers in childhood is highly linked with ongoing depression in teenage girls.Adolescents from homes where domestic violence is present are more likely to be homeless.
In childhood, there is great need and importance of responsive and sensitive mothering for the proper maturation of children. Some mothers heroically are able to remain sensitive and reactive to their children’s signals despite their own sufferings, but others may be overwhelmed by full of anxiousness. These mothers are not emotionally available to their kids. Therefore the life of these ‘silent victims’ gets filled with with full of pain and anxiety.
In some shells, these ‘silent victims’ became very harmful for the society. The stress filled in their souls increase day by day. Ultimately, these ‘silent victims’ of the domestic violence lead to aggression, nightmares, feeling of inferiority, irritating behaviour, drug or alcohol abuse, suicide and even their frustration gives birth to different types of crimes.
These ‘silent victims’ are the voice of our society, but the doubt arises that how and when they will get rid of this cog mire?Need of the hour is we must think about this thing so that those who are the victims of domestic violence will get rid of this for ever.
At least I think this poem “Childhood Lost” may ad us to understand something which we must understand as soon as possible,
What is the price of a childhood lost?
And who is the one to pay the monetary value?
For the child who’s often left alone,
And forced to grow up on their own,
Pulled up stakes at home without a reason why,
While mommy goes out to get high,
For the child who lives in constant fear,
Who wants for love, but none is near,
And left to cry throughout the night,
With no one near to hold her tight,
No sheltering arms to wrap around,
Or childhood comforts to be found,
When compassion is a forgotten word,
And loving thoughts are never heard,
When hopes and dreams have all been tossed,
What is the price of a childhood lost
The Author Azra Binte Gulzar is studying at university of Kashmir .