There is no greater moment of hope than the birth of a child. Yet today, what should be a celebration of life often comes with anxiety, fear and hurried decisions, especially in urban Kashmir. What once symbolized the strength of a mother’s body and the quiet rhythm of nature has now become a clinical, overly medicalized event. A recent video by a well-known social and environmental activist visiting Warwan Valley in Kishtwar caught my attention. In a candid interaction with locals, he learned that 99% of childbirths in that remote region still occur through normal delivery. His astonishment reflected a broader societal shift, how what was once the norm has now become an exception in urban Kashmir. There is a quiet sadness in realizing that something as natural and beautiful as a normal vaginal delivery now feels unfamiliar, almost surprising to many of us. This contrast is not just a matter of geography, but of lifestyle and mindset. While our cities are equipped with modern hospitals and specialists, the natural rhythm of childbirth has been overshadowed by the rising tide of surgical deliveries. In many households, even the idea of a normal delivery brings concern and fear, something our grandparents would never have imagined.
Urbanization has certainly brought progress, but it has also pulled us away from the simplicity and strength of nature’s design.
Just a few days ago, I had a deeply personal experience that reflected this shift. A close friend of mine was with his wife in the labor room, hoping for a normal delivery. Labor was induced, and for a while, there was hope. But as time passed, uncertainty began to weigh on everyone. Eventually, the scan showed signs of fetal distress and there was no choice left but to proceed with a cesarean. In that moment, medical intervention was life-saving. And that is exactly where the balance lies between trust in nature and respect for science. Despite their commitment to a normal delivery, the family finally had to opt for a C-section. I still applaud them, not for the outcome, but for their mindset. They had the courage to try. They had faith in the body’s natural strength.
I often sat with my grandmother, listening to stories from a time when antenatal clinics were unheard of and yet most women gave birth naturally, at home and went on to raise large families. It was mot an ideal world, there were risks too but there was something deeply powerful in the way they trusted their bodies and supported one another.
Today, many families rush into surgical deliveries, not always out of need, but out of fear. We have replaced patience with pressure, and confidence with caution. And in doing so, we have allowed fear to become the decision-maker.
The story of Warwan Valley is not about lack of resources, it is about preserving wisdom. Despite limited infrastructure, their lifestyle, community strength and grounded approach to childbirth have kept the tradition of normal delivery alive. In contrast, our modern lives, sedentary habits, rising stress, pollution and delayed pregnancies are making even conception a struggle.
Our fertility rate is declining. Infertility clinics are growing. But real change will come only when reproductive health becomes a part of everyday conversations, not just emergency hospital visits.
We need awareness. We need trust .And most of all, we need balance. Let normal vaginal delivery be a conscious, informed choice, not a fading memory. The future must be one where technology supports nature, not replaces it.

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