Humans are considered to be the crown of all creations. Well developed nervous system, developed communication skills and sense of creating flawless social dynamics are the prime parameters to justify the title. But unfortunately the way this race was believed to be successful to run the social affairs and fully create the mechanism of support system have not been materialized properly from the word go. The tough tussle between “haves and have-nots” by using their intellect has unbalanced their stance and tainted their composure.

We were born soft with souls and sweet with tongue but aggression and temptation has turned us as a complete mismatch to our innate tendencies. Somewhere along the way, we were convinced that love for each member of the society, irrespective of caste, creed, color or ethnicity is conditional and thus our feeling of ‘love for all’ was fractured. Somewhere along the way we were convinced that softness is a weakness and being soft is not leadership trait or even charismatic and it can turn you into a follower only. We end up believing that centre of our personal universe was something weak. We started distrusting and resenting this soft part that was nakedly vulnerable. When we started to build the walls and left the tenderness of our heart and soul, we were praised, applauded and rewarded for it. So we assumed we are making progress. We thought we were doing the right thing, until we experienced and accepted something different. We choose to be the closed brains with love for few and abhorrence or detestation for the rest. The softness in speaking gradually faded and was taken over by something boisterous and rowdy language. For the first time in our life, we felt indescribable, encompassing fear – this was what we were warned about, so we did what we were convinced to do. With our tail between our legs we ran far away from this incredibly powerful trait of being soft spoken. It may have returned to us with the passage of time but we might have ignored this tender voice hoping it may leave us alone and churned by others. Our softness in our accent and words were killed by the demons created by others and endorsed by our own convictions. We locked ourselves inside our hardness without leaving any clue to get out of it. Time will come when we will realize that soft is strong, soft is adaptable and more organic and more composed. The time when we will realize it, we will be real we - natural, flexible, loving, caring and empathetic. We will uncover secret superpower that works every time – a soft voice. Once it turns out, it is not the armor of the weaklings, but the weapon of the strong ones. A soft voice makes people feel relaxed and open. It conveys love, respect and gratitude. This makes it easier to share your opinions and also to improve on the feedback. You will find less opposition and garner more support for yourself. The listener will lower his guard and will create a positive vibe in his heart for you. People will love to talk to you and it will help you to build new connections. You will find more takers and respect than those who are anyway extrovert.
Often people with good intentions spoil the conversation with their loud voices. They annoy their listeners who in turn want to run away from the conversation as soon as possible. A person with good speaking skills can communicate his point faster than others. People love to listen to the soft voice therefore he will be more effective in the workplace – a point contrary to our belief that he won’t be good at leadership. Soft spoken people are able to collaborate effectively and connect deeply to drive the desired changes.
The people with harder voices think the only way to get heard is to speak louder than the other one. Soon the conversation turns into argument and he wonders why the things turn ugly. Humans are good at hearing stress in other person’s voices. Your voice has a potential to stress anyone or to de-stress if kept in check. By lowering your voice you soothe the ears and chill out the listeners. There is no need to raise the voice to make your point. Softness, not loudness is the key to get heard. This is the key to bring others closer instead of scaring them away. You can make your unpleasant content attractive when you speak it in a soft tune and a pleasant content scary when you switch over to the higher tone. Being soft spoken, calm and composed are not common traits. By doing it, you actually stand out from the crowd. People will come to you rather than you chasing (after) them. People will seek your suggestions in their personal and professional life. You will distinguish yourself as the one with more depth in thoughts and the one who knows how to bust the stress and mitigate the anguish and misery of emotions.
If you can’t control your tongue you will be failure on social fronts. Your company will be raw and random. It will be difficult to find better comrades to weave your niche beautifully with higher moral standards.
Parents and teachers have an incredibly important role to teach the children the value of being soft-spoken. They need to lead from the front to master the skill first and then communicate effectively to the younger generation. In your next conversation try to speak softer than the usual and see what happens. The shift in the vibe is dramatic. Practice this art you will find incredibly astonishing results. Your whole personality will change and you will become an idol for others to be followed. You can radiate positivity and can potentially change the whole world.
Naram Dam-i-Guftago, Garam dam-i-Jistajoo
Razam ho ya bazam ho, Pak dil –o- pak baaz.

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