Every blood relation in our life is very important and valuable .It is because of these relations that we identify ourselves or we can say introduce ourselves to the world.Had there been no relations there would have been no identities because everyone would have been like a machine .Out of all relations the most relevant and significant one is the parental relation. This relation is deemed next to God in importance. By “ parental relation” we mean the bond with father and mother; the greatest blessing endowed upon human beings.

Out of these two relations I am going to discuss the importance and relevance of fathers in our lives. He is the man who burns every bit of energy for our betterment. However ,his role as a silent latent force is not measured by any unit. He stays calm and composed even in tough times and never shows the storm of emotions raging inside his heart. He believes in the happiness of the family and for this reason he never gives vent to his own tensions . Consequently when a child tries to play with him unaware of his inner battles and the difficulties he faces for the welfare of his family; the child finds him tough and seemingly unwilling to share joyful moments. At such times the mother defends him by saying “he is tired and exhausted” .Yet the child thinks his father is too tough to deal with that he does not care about the child's successes and feelings etc.etc.
This kind of misunderstanding often creates a rift between the child and the father. In spite of this the father prefers hiding his emotions and does not openly reveal his love for the family and its members. A father's hard reserved approach is not natural; rather it is acquired. The constant struggle to manage expenses and social obligations and bear unseen burdens prevents him from becoming the child's “favorite” parent in an expressive way.
A father needs to be firm and sometimes act as a hardliner.But why?
Think of the Father as the CEO of his family. Just like a company CEO , he must run the household according to some rules ,values and boundaries. He has to keep his eyes open and monitor how the family is functioning, and ensure everyone is moving in the right direction.
When any family member deviates from these established norms or regulations; there must be some consequences ;usually in the form of a warning, correction or scolding from the father, the CEO. Scolding with a good intention is actually a responsible and caring act, not a negative one .Unfortunately children and even elders misinterpret it as a personal insult, rejection and harshness when in reality it is an attempt to guide ,teach and protect the family unit. It implies being tough doesn't mean unloving rather it means strongly loving and caring. Father's love is like a gentle stream that keeps the family boat afloat, preventing it from sinking. His love is the buoyant force that despite bearing a heavy burden doesn't exhaust.
In the holy divine Book Almighty admonishes us not to utter even a word in anguish towards your Parents. Be kind and respectful to them. Those children are truly fortunate who find one of them or both in old age and serve them without the slightest trace of sorrow or displeasure on their faces.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that the father is the middle door of the paradise so it is up to you whether you preserve it or neglect it .iYou can't enter a house without passing its middle door. So the notion that heaven is attained only by serving the mother is a misunderstanding because serving the father is equally essential as he is the key to unlock heaven. There is no discrimination between father and mother in terms of honor and rights however the mother's rights hold greater emphasises according to hadith.
We should respect our parents and serve them in every possible way. Fathers are generally inexpressive and introverted;They often hide their deepest feelings and emotions only to keep their family members happy. Children truly understand and experience this when they themselves become parents. It is then they proudly tell their children that their father was loving yet strict . It was because of his discipline that they didn't indulge bad activities .Had he not been so strict they would not have succeeded in life. But this is not enough unless they are loved and respected in the same manner as they loved and respected us.
We readily inherit their legacy and property but why do we neglect their blessings that are heard and accepted without any delay.
Finally I would like to conclude this article with this quote “ The Mother's lap upon the father’s shoulders nourishes and cherishes us all” So let's value this relationship more than it deserves.

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